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No One To Blame

By January 12, 2018No Comments

When people fail, they always have a story to tell and someone to put the blame on for their miseries in life. Just like every movie or soap opera on TV, there is the hero character, and then there is always the evil stepmother or some bad character appears and makes the hero’s life terrible. We all hate the bad guy in the story. But did you know that it is not always the bad guy’s fault? Usually the hero triumphs in the end when he finally learns to fight for himself. Imagine if he did that in the very beginning of the story. Well, then there would not be a story to tell…right? This comes to show that if we get bullied or pushed around by others, it is because we allow them to.


When we were children, we were taught by our parents to never hurt anyone. This was their way of keeping us out of trouble. But because of this rule, we have all allowed bigger and meaner children to get the best of us. In recent studies, this rule has been modified to battle against the rising bullying incidents in schools and communities. A child should know when to practice self-control and when they need to stand up for themselves. If children do not learn to fight for what they think is right, then they will become weak and will be a pushover even until they grow up to become adults. Some people have bottled up all of their anger and hate from being bullied in their youth and end up becoming angry and miserable grown-ups. Yes, we should be peace-loving citizens. But there is also a time we have to be peacemakers and stand up for what is right and just. When something is not right around you and you do nothing to change it, then it is partially your fault, right?


Sometimes things get out of hand and anger begins to overcome you. Take a deep breath and think first before you speak or do anything. You are in control of your own actions. You may not be able to control what other people say or do, but you are in control of yourself, so be careful. Most of the time we blame someone for provoking us to anger, but anger can be suppressed and even controlled. Mind over the heart is the key. Think first about the consequences of your actions and is it even worth getting all worked up about. Most of the time, after a fit of anger, you will just end up regretting your actions. So why go through all of that in the first place? Take control!


Lastly, life is too short for regret or remorse. Yes, you may have done a lot of wrong things in the past, but you still have today to make things right. If you have failed before, it doesn’t mean you will fail again. Keep trying and never give up. Stop recalling past sins that others have done to you. Forgive them and forget them. We have to learn to keep moving forward. Looking back and blaming people will not make anything right. Instead, it will keep you stuck in the same place instead of enjoying the life you have today. The past is the past. Learn from it and do not make the same mistakes you’ve done before. Do not trust the people who’ve done you wrong before. Instead, meet new people. Participate in new experiences. Live your life the way you want it to be. Love everyone in your life because there is a reason for meeting every person you meet. They can either be a blessing or a lesson to learn from. Just take each day and each experience as it comes, and be thankful no matter what comes your way.

“A Life Story” By Toufic Korban

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